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Here Comes the Sun… and the Suitcases

Doni Landy

Sooo close. But so far away! That’s how I feel about packing for my upcoming trip to Florida this Friday. I cannot wait to get on the plane. However, as we all know, there is so much to do between now and then, between breathing that sigh of relief as we take off and checking in the bags at the airport.

I don’t know many people who like to pack. Having to decide among which of your favorite jewelry, clothes, and shoes will join you on your next vacay is almost as bad as choosing which destination to visit and where to stay. That’s because if we choose wrong or forget those oh so perfect sandals that match perfectly with that oh so cute top we’ve been saving for exactly this occasion, our night may feel a little less bright.

I know, I know. You’re thinking, “Get a grip.” But, secretly, you know there’s truth in my words. If we are not feeling so confident on the inside, what we wear can change our mood and attitude for the better. And if we are already feeling fabulous, not looking the way we want can, unfortunately, take us down a peg. The key is to achieve that healthy balance between the way we look on the outside and the way we feel on the inside, meaning what I put in my suitcase matters.

Once we understand and acknowledge that balance, we must face the delicate task of filling our fabulous bags, with choosing from among our favorite things, and deciding what to take with us and what to leave behind. Packing, you see, is like life. Our closets are a part of our history. And though the clothes we wear serve a utilitarian purpose – to keep us protected from the elements, for example – they also tell a story.

As I walk through my closet picking and choosing the pieces to pack, I immediately spot that black dress I wore to a cocktail party in the city a few years back and that jacket I wore to the grand re-opening of my store this fall. That blouse I wore to the holiday dinner I hosted in my home five years ago and the clutch I brought with me to a most memorable dinner with a special friend.

Packing means giving a special nod to the past. But it can also mean agreeing to create new memories and start fresh, which is what I will be doing with those pieces that are just waiting for me to cut the tags off of them. “Take me with you,” they call. That SPIbelt, a Loeffler Randall clutch for evening, a pile of Trunk tees, a Karma scarf, and not one but three Salvage Sacs.  And then there are those threadbare pieces to which I must say goodbye. My favorite wrap sweater that I bought for S’s first birthday that then became my sleeping sweater, now pilled from wear. It was a devoted friend, keeping me warm on cold nights and one I associate with specific memories and my mood during those times.

Editing our closets is never easy, even if it’s only temporary as when we are packing our bags. Saying farewell, even if only for a short while, is heart wrenching. But our closets, like life in general, remind us that letting go of the past and moving on is inevitable. Though we might at first be afraid or reluctant to do so, the upside can never be quantified or underestimated. New experiences await all of us, including me. And the airy cover up that will protect me from the damaging rays of the sun is the same cover up that will welcome the warmth.



Doni Feinberg Landy, Esq. is a mom, entrepreneur, store owner, lawyer, blogger, talent manager/agent, bag lady, and jewelry junkie.

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