“Music is my religion.” –Jimi Hendrix
Have you ever felt cornered in a job or personal relationship you knew wasn’t right for you but because of your obligations – familial, financial, or both – and felt you were unable to make a move? Or maybe you were just plain afraid to give up the security you had and told yourself you’d stick it out for another six months, a year, even five years? However, deep down in your gut, you knew you knew you were supposed to be doing something different. And the place you were in your life presently wasn’t where you were meant to be, at least not forever because forever is a long time. The world may not have seen it – yet – but you already knew something the world didn’t; you march to the beat of a different drummer.
If that person was – is – you, I understand because, at one time, that person was myself. Believe me; I’m not complaining. I had, and continue to have a great life. The difference was about a year ago I finally started to embrace the music and listen to what it was saying to me.
Who hasn’t gone for a long drive alone and become lost in thought while our favorite song blasts from the speakers? Or worked out to a customized playlist, or sung in the shower because we cannot get that new song on the radio out of our head? Most obvious of all, who hasn’t been in a lousy mood and all it took was a favorite song to pull us out of it?
That’s because we identify with music. Not only with the lyrics, which, of course, can resonate with us in the same way literature and poetry can. But with the feeling music creates in us, the memories it evokes, and the inspiration it can provide us if we are open to it.
Music is my therapy. Whenever I am feeling down, I turn on the songs I love to sway my mood and lift me up. If I am ever unsure of my next step, I can depend on music to provide me with the answers. My favorite lyrics continue to help me put my life in perspective and give me strength to push forward and pursue my dreams, which is what I am now doing.
It has always been a fantasy of mine to work in music while combining it with art and fashion in a meaningful way. I expressed my passion recently, creating one-of-a-kind trucker and beach hats featuring my favorite musical lyrics.
In the past months, I have been lucky enough to work with uniquely talented artists whose music, personal style, and life stories have each affected me profoundly. Their music is about acceptance, not only of others but also of us. Their music reminds us that becoming a success means having faith in what we believe and remaining committed to our values as professionals and, most importantly, caring about others.
No matter what your art is, each of us must use our talents and passion to send a message – to share, teach, and inspire. When we do, we do more than entertain; we create magic. People often try to define music, emphasizing the value of the notes over the lyrics and vice versa. I don’t believe in such paradigms. Whatever music is for you at any moment in time or during any circumstance, let it be your therapy, sanity, and peace.
In life there will always be those situations we can do little to control, from how others perceive us to senseless tragedy, most recently the terrorist attack in Manchester, England at Ariana Grande’s concert Monday night. Our hearts, both at D&D Endeavors and Elle Squared, go out to the families who lost precious loved ones whose only crime was a desire to get closer to the music. We hope and pray that during these most trying hours you find comfort.
As we watch along with the rest of the world in horror, let us be reminded to savor the moments we can recall with a song actually while they’re happening. As I told my daughter years ago in the speech I delivered at her bat mitzvah, and remind my kids every day, remember to see the beauty, hear the music, and feel the love. Sometimes it’s the most we can do.
Doni Feinberg Landy, Esq. is a mom, entrepreneur, store owner, lawyer, blogger, talent manager/agent, bag lady, and jewelry junkie.