Yeah, I admit it. I know you’re probably thinking, “You? But you always seem so Zen.”
For the past few weeks, no matter what I’ve tried, I can’t seem to get my To-do lists done. Not my errands with the kids, not my paperwork, not my pro bono legal work, and, most nagging to me, the thank you notes from O’s bar mitzvah back in November. I don’t care what Emily Post said. Twelve months to send our thank you cards is too long. But I digress.
That’s why I’m headed on a trip this week. Just me and my girl, S. We’re headed to Vegas to do some buying for the store. And while there, have some girl bonding time. Then we’re off to L.A. to meet up with O who will be there with his dad for some guy bonding.
I need this trip. S needs it. And, despite my ever-growing list of obligations, I’m insistent that we both take a break.
Breaks are necessary. We’ve all been in that situation where for weeks, sometimes months, we’re in constant motion. We don’t stop for a moment, not to breathe let alone enjoy the simplicity of our surroundings and, more importantly, the people around us. We stop listening, and all we hear is the noise. Before we realize it, we’re in a rut.
Changing your scenery is one of the best ways to improve your mood and get the energy boost you need, even if you’re combining work and play as I am during this trip. For me, there’s no distinction, and I find melding the two is the best way. I don’t know about you, but I find it difficult to check out completely from my day-to-day life, which is why I’ve stopped trying and, instead, recently decided to embrace the whirlwind. What more perfect place to start than Vegas?
I’ve always loved the saying, “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.” To a large extent that will hold true for my daughter and me during our trip. Anyone who’s a mother to teenagers knows how important this time is to catch up and see what’s going on in our kids’ lives, and the conversations we will share will belong only to us.
Where I turn that saying on its head is the way going to Vegas, or wherever I’m traveling, even if it’s somewhere much closer and only for a few hours, means returning home recharged and reinvigorated. As soon as I do, I’m always better able to tackle the challenges that seemed insurmountable before I left.
Yes, technically I’ll be working during our trip, sourcing new lines for the store, finding unique accessories to complement my customer’s wardrobes in a way that allows them to express their individual style. My goal is to bring these items home to them. But more than that, what I hope to return with, what I know I will, is a fresh perspective. The only way to do that is to break out of my routine every so often.
If you don’t have the time or money to get on a plane or drive somewhere for a day, turn on the music. Light the candles. Pour some herbal tea or aromatic coffee. Wrap yourself in that favorite sweater you’ve been saving but haven’t yet had the occasion to wear, and open the book you started that’s now collecting dust on your nightstand. Plan your trip – to Vegas, Bali, or Tahiti, whether in reality or your mind, living room, bedroom, or bath because what happens there comes home with you.
And what happens in Vegas comes home with me. See you all soon.
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Doni Feinberg Landy, Esq. is a mom, entrepreneur, store owner, lawyer, blogger, talent manager/agent, bag lady, and jewelry junkie.